First off, I AM attached. We are open and free to explore. We play separately, not together.
I'm a reader, writer, movie-goer, crafting mama who values her alone time and playing time. I'm witty and sarcastic, can turn almost any conversation into a dirty one, but I enjoy deep intellectual conversations as well.
I am a 'guy's girl' and in a room full of people, I'm likely cracking jokes with the guys. I can not deal with the drama that catty women bring. But on the flip-side, I am a lady and desire chivalry and respect. I'm happy to split the tab, but you're welcome to wine and dine me, too.
I am a submissive in the bedroom and prefer to play with REAL Doms/Masters, NOT pseudos who are looking for someone to 'boss around'. If that's you, move along. I'm intelligent and submissive, not a doormat for you to wipe your feet on.
I am not here to teach you BDSM. I know what questions to ask to see if you're for real. No, not like 50 Shades. True BDSM is so much more and better.
I have no interest in sexually submissive males.
I'm not in this to be a quick ****. I am a sapiosexual. If you don't know what this means, you should probably move along. 'This is (I am) not the droid you seek.' I thoroughly enjoy making a genuine connection, be it over dinner and drinks or coffee.
Trust and honesty are imperative.
I will not meet you if I'm not comfortable with doing so. My husband must also agree and may request to speak with you prior. He will, at a minimum, have your contact information. If you're not ok with this, it will not work. I am his prized treasure and he does not take my safety lightly.
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My Ideal Person:
I took the advice of a dear friend. She said to make a list. So, here goes.
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I am poly. Please be poly too, or be ready to explore the possibility. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Poly = more than ONE love/like/partner, etc. It's NOT a secret from my husband. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I am my own, a mother, wife, and friend first... then yours. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I am NOT a MILF conquest for you. I am a person, a pretty fucking awesome one. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Must be a good communicator and a receptive listener. You should want to be my confidant as I want to be yours. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I prefer older men, no older than 10 to 20yrs, who are experienced Doms/Tops. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Have referrals, references, etc of fellow kinksters that will validate you. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I DO NOT want a new partner every few months, but I'm not looking for a new forever either. You should know what you're looking for as well. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I'm enjoying exploring, learning, and growing. I'd prefer to do that with someone committed to our journey together. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I want someone to hold my hands in public and hold them down in private. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I want someone who has warm eyes and arms that keep me warm. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I will cherish our time together, miss it when we're apart; vanilla and kinky. You should as well. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I want someone who wants to take me to munches, dinner, game nights, and to bed. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I want someone who can't get enough of me, my mind, my body, and my heart. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I want someone who doesn't need me, but wants me and the time I can offer. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I want someone to wipe my tears, not be the reason behind them. Unless you're spanking, paddling, whipping me to tears. Then it's acceptable. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I want someone who doesn't play games. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I want to be friends first, then lovers. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I want someone who's experienced in heartbreak, love, friendship, and BDSM. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I want to explore with someone I trust, knowing they won't play and run. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I want someone strong in character, strength, morals, and dominance. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I want someone who can laugh at themselves and at me. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I'm a dork, quirky, flirty, funny, and sensitive. I feel things on a deeper level. This is an asset, not a downfall. Be someone accepting of that and so much more. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I prefer to walk beside you, not behind or ahead. I am your equal. I am not beneath you... except in bed. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I don't want someone who plays games. We should always know where we stand in each others lives. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Be someone worthy of my submission. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I aim to please and would prefer someone willing to give some guidance. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Be someone I can trust and respect, who will push my limits as I push yours. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Be attentive, ie: Send me good morning and good night messages. Call me so I can hear your voice (often). You know, things you'd do for someone you care about. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Don't be afraid of emotions. BDSM is emotional, as is any relationship. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Be patient and willing to talk it out. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Be creative in your exploits with me. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* A high libido is important because mine is unquenchable. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* You are a man first, not always Dom. I get and understand that. Please don't push me away when your Domly hibernates. Pull me close and let me enjoy the man behind the Dom. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Aftercare is a MUST. If you're not a Dom who thrives or enjoys this, you're not the Dom for me. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* My partner/s are a priority to me. I invest, a lot. If you're not willing to do the same I'm not the sub for you. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* This means I want your time. Ideally, I'd like to see you once a week if not more. Once a month doesn't work for me. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I'm a writer. It's cathartic for me. I will write about my experiences. Your actions will determine the content.
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